More than 32 months ago, we worked on a model that to me, was the most comfortable. There was lesser exclusivity n a lower dose of commitment. Essentially, we met only on saturday evenings, if I didn't have any other appointment, if I had wanted. Of course, to be fair, he needed not attend to me as and when I wanted a companion. The whole relationship (or the incomplete sense of it) was based on a willingness for our desires to coincide. No obligations, therefore, no commitment. Part-time partners.

Then, things changed. Consequently, the relationship evolved. Following that, expectations increased, more effort to meet expectations was also part of the requirement. In effect, there was a heightened level of commitment because more was at stake. We became girlfriend and boyfriend.

Alas! It is so easy to neglect that while circumstances and status may shift within months, it takes thousands of years for evolution to happen.

Man grapples to understand how much it means to a woman, to have someone to go home to at the end of each day, particularly if it has been one of those 'finally-today-is-over' kind of days. Just having someone to hold her, talk to her or listen to her rambling about the day, makes her feel loved and blessed. Ah, the simple blessings of each day.

Woman contends with man's need for pure solitude (but one that perhaps, includes his tv, his play set, his gadgets) after a beaten day at work. Just being able to shut down, not pay attention to anyone (and directing all the attention to the mobile gadget or tv), especially the above-described woman, makes a good respite in the cave for him. Ah, the simple happiness of each day.

As we all know, what is simple is most often, not easy at all.

While man tries hard to give some attention to woman, making her feel loved, he also struggles for his respite in his own cave. While woman tries hard to make lighter demands n gives more breathing space to man, she too struggles with her desire for that simple gesture of togetherness.

Maybe, my earlier model should have been more of the ideal. Weekend partners. Draw the line at that, so that man and woman can draw the line too for what they expect from each other. It might have been less simple to understand and accept, but much easier to manage and have.

We, all of us, have a bad habit of complicating things, making life more complex for ourselves.

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